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Learn
about and be aware of the dynamics of
family violence. |
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Never
justify or condone the abuse. |
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Do
not minimize or make excuses for
abusive behavior. |
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Direct
your anger at the batterer, not the
survivor. |
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Listen. |
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Believe. |
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Help
them develop safety plans. |
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Do
not be judgmental. |
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Assure
and maintain confidentiality. |
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Do
not promise them anything, or rescue. |
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Help
survivors, but do not take over for
them. |
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Point
out their strengths, talents and
skills. |
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Tell
them they are not alone. |
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Refer
survivors to a domestic violence
program. |
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Find
out about community resources which
might be helpful. |
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Respect
the decision they make about leaving
or staying in the relationship. |
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Point
out their options. |
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Tell
them they can call you if they need
help finding community resources in
the future. |
